Tired of the Tango
Ok, just to update the workout saga I did the leg/core routine for the first time yesterday. Romanian deadlifts may workout your entire body but they also make it incredibly hard to stand or sit the next day. I look like my Grandmother when I get up from a chair...clinging to any nearby solid object for support. Oh, if only Matthew Mcconaughey were nearby!
On with the post...
I've been dancing with this guy at the gym. No, not Dancing with the Stars type dancing but that tango that we all do while checking each other out. If you haven't noticed yet, I become a complete idiot at this stage of the dating game. This time I've been trying to keep my head on straight and at least appear that I know how to play this game.
So far that dance has involved him staring, me smiling when I catch him staring and him turning away red-faced when caught in the act. Last week when I emerged from one of the workout rooms after a class, he and his friend were on a machine right outside the door. I had to giggle at the look on their faces. It was that, "OMG, it's her!" look. You know...the look you get when you're strolling down the hallway at the office and the hottie from Marketing appears from nowhere??? I smiled at them and continued to walk out while chatting away with the other girls from my class.
Why am I telling you all this? Because I'm growing tired of dancing. I mean it's a fun little game but enough already. The band's tired of playing and I'd like to have a name to put with my little hottie's face. So how do I progress from this tango to a little dirty dancing? Do I feign ignorance and ask him for help on an exercise? Do I ask to work-in (for the workout impaired that means sharing) on a machine he's using? WHAT??????
Good grief! Why can't we all just be equipped with traffic lights so we'd know what the other is thinking? You know...red means "don't even try it", yellow "proceed with caution", green "c'mon wild monkey sex". Ok...that's not what green means but you get the picture. Wouldn't that be sooooo much easier????
On with the post...
I've been dancing with this guy at the gym. No, not Dancing with the Stars type dancing but that tango that we all do while checking each other out. If you haven't noticed yet, I become a complete idiot at this stage of the dating game. This time I've been trying to keep my head on straight and at least appear that I know how to play this game.
So far that dance has involved him staring, me smiling when I catch him staring and him turning away red-faced when caught in the act. Last week when I emerged from one of the workout rooms after a class, he and his friend were on a machine right outside the door. I had to giggle at the look on their faces. It was that, "OMG, it's her!" look. You know...the look you get when you're strolling down the hallway at the office and the hottie from Marketing appears from nowhere??? I smiled at them and continued to walk out while chatting away with the other girls from my class.
Why am I telling you all this? Because I'm growing tired of dancing. I mean it's a fun little game but enough already. The band's tired of playing and I'd like to have a name to put with my little hottie's face. So how do I progress from this tango to a little dirty dancing? Do I feign ignorance and ask him for help on an exercise? Do I ask to work-in (for the workout impaired that means sharing) on a machine he's using? WHAT??????
Good grief! Why can't we all just be equipped with traffic lights so we'd know what the other is thinking? You know...red means "don't even try it", yellow "proceed with caution", green "c'mon wild monkey sex". Ok...that's not what green means but you get the picture. Wouldn't that be sooooo much easier????
posted by xwy at 8:00 AM
22 Comments:
You're asking THIS bunch for dating advice??? Brave girl. Personally, I'd check the gaydar first.
Rick - Almost every one of you is married...who better to ask for advice than someone who's accomplished the goal?????
Checked gaydar...it's in proper working order and no it's not picking up a signal on him. I think he's just really shy or maybe MY "is that guy hitting on me?" radar isn't working properly. Damn, this is complicated!!!!!
Matthew Mcconaughey is friggin' GORGEOUS!!! ;)
Okay, now that I've got that out of my system (and the drool off my keyboard), I think maybe you should do the "work-on" thing. I've always sucked with relationships myself as far as "signals" go. "Is that an "I like her" smile he's smiling at me? Or is it a "Oh God, look as the size of her ass!" grimace and not a smile at all????"
Anyway, good luck...and I think your red light/green light idea is brilliant! :)
Oops...I meant "work-in".
Hmmm...could that be something subliminal slipping out of my brain?
"Work on him, Angie...work on him!!!" ;)
Seems like my face is traffic signal stuck at green ppl can read me so easily...*sigh* so much for mystery.
Matthew McConaughey makes me a bit nauseous, though it pains me to say it since he is a fellow U of Texas alumni.
On to your question; I think it depends on how much you like yourself right now. As a guy, I prefer very straightforward. In your position it has advantages and disadvantages all of which play into how strong your self-esteem is. Try the straightforward no bullshit thing is my advice. As I wrote in a recent post, men do NOT understand the multi layers of flirting that women understand. We don't get it. Make your intentions known clearly. If it works,great. If not, just move on with self esteem intact.
Now about that sore business. This is a common mistake among personal trainers and it illustrates a lack of knowledge. The quickest way to make someone reject a lifelong fitness routine is to make them think it consists of a life of hell. A bad trainer "lords' it over recruits making them sore and tired so he/she can feel good about his/her own fitness. A competent trainer checks constantly on your energy and soreness and build a lifelong program from the ground up. Beware the amateurs; in the fitness business they are a dime a dozen.
Don't be fooled. Check out credentials and work with legitimate professionals.
PQ - I can't agree more about Matthew...YUMMY!
Yep, I'm signal impared myself that's why I'd love to implement the traffic signal. I always wonder "is he smiling at me or stiffling a giggle because I have t.p. stuck to my shoe?"
PQ - I like the "work on" idea better!
SJ - It's ok, hon. We'll get you a mask to hide it...how 'bout one of those cool Hannibal Lechter masks???? Kidding aside, I wear my heart on my sleeve so we're in the same boat.
7 - (1) that man could open his mouth and prove to be dumber than a box of rocks and I'd STILL think 'wild monkey sex' every time I see him.
(2)Once aspect I didn't comment on in that post is that I know men who do use multi-layered flirting which complicates the entire matter to the level of rocket science. I'm feeling pretty bold right now. I mean he's just some guy at the gym, right? Who cares if it backfires. (let's see if I have that same attitude when it happens!!)
(3) As much as I'd love to blame the trainer, it's my own fault. I don't train with her I just had her put a routine together. She warned me about working into it. But I push myself harder than anyone else can meaning I did every exercise for the maximum sets including the interval training on the first night. I know better than that. That'll teach me for being a perfectionist.
Thanks for the "Matthew Moment"...Whew...I've been working really hard this week---I needed that. LOL :-)
Hmmm. Some guys are just shy. I say take the upper hand. Why the heck not? If there's something you want---go for it. :-)
Well I say just approach him, say Hi, strike up a conversation about a piece of equipment or a class you are interested in taking at the gym, hell or what kind of smoothie is your favorite flavor. Just Talk To Him! Good luck Babe! I am so-o-o-o glad i'm married and out of the dating game!
Hmmm. I guess it can't be as easy as walking up to him, introducing yourself, and asking him if you could go out for a cup of coffee sometime.
Rick's right. We're the last people you should be takling dating tips from.
I like your site very much. Thanks for your interest. Have a good day
Um, can we take your cybersilence for happy news? Might you and this guy in the gym have hit it off by now?
If so, you certainly didn't listen to our advice.
X - No, he's been MIA from the gym since soon after this post. But thanks for asking. Just really busy with work and frankly, haven't had much to say. Miss you all.
I am so much more expert at reading signals that people are sending each other. Not signals coming in my direction.
Angie - We miss having you around!!
I hope you come back soon...
C'mon back 'n' give us a chance!
I miss you.
I apologize for not responding to your comments sooner. I've been a bad girl... ;)
Lisa - Ditto. I'm a complete idiot when it comes to reading signs sent my way. Signs between 2 other people I don't have a problem reading.
Gary, Rick - Miss you guys too.
X - Really missed you. :) Still waiting on the inspiration to blog. Hoping to have time to stop by your blog today.
Keep waiting, dear. We're always happy to see you when we see you. You have a life to lead. My only hope is that you're having a good time down there.
simple. find a reason to start talking to the guy. you are obviously equipped to do that.
if he doesn`t respond favorably.......next.
regarding working out; why are you doing romanian dead-lifts?
i have personal training clients and i would never introduce someone to a program that would produce catastrophic muscle fatigue the next day.
i specialise in plyometric training and it is critical to approach the sessions in small increments so that the nervous system adapts slowly.
i`d be checking your coaches creds......
Saw your comment at X-Dell's thought I would drop by and say HI!
and you don't even have to worry about reading women's minds!!!!
holy crap, THAT'S hard work
"what's wrong?"
"Nothing!!!!"
Uh oh, somethings wrong and I better figure out what it is!!!
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